INTJ – I Know What I Know & What I Don’t Know

Ah~ The infamous phrase of an INTJ, “I know what I know and more importantly, I know what I don’t know”.

This here, gives us clarity about our knowledge for when we are helping others or for when we are socializing with others; because fact of the matter is, if we know something or don’t know something then we will just tell you.

You can be sure that we will not waste anyone’s time.

Although it’s great that we can be so forward with ourselves, more often than not, we can be seen as arrogant, patronizing, single-minded and stubborn. Yes, our unquenchable knowledge paired with our high self-confidence makes for a disastrous combination – therefore, it is not surprising when INTJs have learned to be reserved.

Nonetheless,  times when someone is telling us something and we just simply cut them off to reply with, “I knew that already” or “I know”; we end up quickly being labelled as arrogant in the eyes of that person. So, that person would now assume that we do not want to ‘learn’ or cooperate by listening to them; which eventually leads them to proceed to say that it would, “do you good to re-hear what you know again” or to read more about what we know already.

Fair enough, what you just said is validated and I understand what you are saying.

HOWEVER, the thing is though, we, as INTJs, when interested in something, we research the hell out of that topic – to the extent where we need to find contentment in our findings and our knowledge. People should know that, it is not easy to satisfy our thirst for knowledge and so when we are happy about what we know – that means we know enough to stop (finally). So when we say, “I know”, it is not just a simple, ‘I know a bit of the topic at hand’ – it is more of a, ‘I know the depths of this topic at hand and so the more you tell me, the more we retreat into our “know-it-all shell”. Yes, you potentially can repulse us and we furthermore look like single-minded fools to you – which reinforces your judgment of us.

One thing you should also know is that, on our ‘journey to contentment’, we will research (like crazy) for hours on end; we do not need to eat, drink or sleep and sometimes we question if we were even breathing throughout the entire process/ research.

Furthermore, we instantly say, “I know”, because we have already jumped to the conclusion whereby your conversation was built upon. We already got your point, so when people vomits excessive information before getting to the “moral of the story”, we already look like a stubborn idiot whereby we either have a certain irritated expression of exasperation on our face or our hands are motioning for that person to hurry up (personally, I use the phrase “fast forward”, a lot).

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On the other hand, as for when we do not know some things, we will either tell you or just stay quiet – some topics do not pique our interest nor do we feel that we are comfortable enough to have an opinion on it. We sometimes do not feel ‘qualified’ to speak about the topic at hand – yes, we are VERY aware of what we do not know and we acknowledge this. The problem is whether the topic makes us interested enough to commence a research afterwards.

Sometimes, we act like we do not know when in fact we do, why? because we either want to confirm whether what we already knew was correct OR you are probably just not ‘worthy’ of our guidance and time.

Anyways, if we are not researching, we subconsciously pick up information around us – this is just our ‘introverted intuition’ working. Needless to say, we have a lot of circumstances whereby we have no idea how we know what we know.

The annoying thing about being certain about our knowledge is that, we are seen as not open-minded – this is such a misconstrued assumption. Open minded people acknowledge their faults and questions everything and themselves. Even if we know what we know, that does not mean that we do not plan on expanding our knowledge; it just so happens that the topic may not have piqued our interest yet and so it is not our priorities at the moment.

Fun fact; we INTJs like to think the unthinkable; needless to say, if something “impossible” were to happen, we really would not be alarmed.

ludic dreams

 

So instead of jumping to the conclusion that we are arrogant, patronizing, stubborn etc – how about actually acknowledging that we actually know what we know and even more so, what we don’t know.

You will repulse us less and we might just actually open up to you by explaining ourselves or listening to you more out of mutual respect.

 

Geomeun Goyangi

P.s guys, I’ve started a new INTJ series, happy watching!

 

***Please note that these blogs should NOT influence you to generalize that all INTJs, as a niche group, are all the same – because we are not; a lot of other factors shapes and individualizes a person.***

 

 

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7 comments

  1. Coyote · March 14, 2016

    Yep, INTJ here and I totally agree. Sometimes, it can be a problematic turn-off. To improve my relationships communication, I try to resist that urge; and prefer to reply by a slightly ironic hmm; On the other hand, although It is boring to be re-informed, –especially from those people who try to be pretentious– sometimes it can be useful to hear the same thoughts processed by/from others own perspectives; and can effectively impact the relationship. Thank you for this blog!

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    • geomeungoyangi66 · March 15, 2016

      Thanks for the great input Coyote! Glad you enjoyed this post. As per your comment; yes, the “hmmm” response has somewhat become a routinely reply for when we try to suppress ourselves from re-hearing information. At least it builds our tolerance as well as confirming information for ourselves; plus, the opposition will not write us off as arrogant.

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  2. nidhiee2nids · April 14, 2016

    Spot on! An INTJ for sure. Though it has been proved time & time again to me that it’s not healthy in my 2-way communication. And one reason why I resorted to writing my thots than communicating them because I was unable to convey them to the desired effect. Other reason is that you don’t really find like minded conversionalits to keep both parties interested. I hope to get over my socially awkward phase someday sometime soon. Alas, Happy Realisation for me. Thanks to you. You are one amazing Phscyology expert! You might be in this field if not then I can assure you this is your arena! Keep sharing! Thank you :)

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    • geomeungoyangi66 · April 14, 2016

      Yes, it can be really confusing and frustrating at first until you actually acknowledge what is happening in the mind – I think clarity of who we are and how we think is so so important, that is, if we want to refine and develop ourselves and our flaws. I too am making a more conscious effort into trying to communicate better. It was not until recently that I had a change in approach to how I thought about social interactions and communications – “take everything as an opportunity”; opportunity to learn and to hear how people communicate – do not be afraid, it is most likely that you won’t see that person again so why not give it everything you got? (communication wise). Even if you do see them again, don’t mind too much what they think of you as you are trying to be better :)
      A lot of us say that “we don’t care what people think”, to an extent that is very true, but very deep in our subconsciousness, we care what SOME people think (we are in a weird denial state).

      P.s Thank you for your kind comments! I am not in this field but it is definitely one of my passions! Great input too by the way :)

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      • nidhiee2nids · April 14, 2016

        I definitely plan to follow your advice and all the worthy words you have pinned down in this beautiful blog of yours. 2 hours down and I just completed reading most of the entries of your blog and I am loving it. Thank you so much for sharing. You might not be able to gauge the impact you have left of me but I know it’s immense. Wish you Good Day & Good Times! Will keep looking up to you! :)

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        • geomeungoyangi66 · April 14, 2016

          Thank you Nidhiee2nids! Words cannot describe how happy that my blogs have made you feel.
          You, my readers, make me very happy and all your comments alone makes me feel very blessed ^-^
          I hope my words have made your mindset stronger as well as impacting on your outlook AND your quality of life for the better.

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