The Art Of Defining Yourself & Others

“I do not want a Job to define me. I do not want my education to define me. I do not want my friends to define me. I do not want my mistakes to define me”.

“I want me, my whole person to define me“

Everyone have at least once defined and judged someone AND everyone have at least once defined and judged you – the easiest example would be defining you by your job.

Now, not a lot of us are lucky or qualified enough to do what we want to do – so when someone judges you and defines you based on your job which you either hate, like, not interested in, or you are in love with (congrats on landing a job you are passionate about!) – people will make a quick assumption based on your intellectual capabilities; i.e, you as a person

Jobs are the easiest asset or liability for people to compare themselves or others to:

• You work for NASA? you must be smart and a geek;
• A Lawyer or a Doctor? you must be smart;
• A Tax Accountant and Dentist? you must earn a lot;
• A Psychologists? you must be good at judging peoples’ thought process and why they do what they do;
• Toy Inventor? you may not be boyfriend/girlfriend material; you do not seem mature enough;
• A Bin man/Lady? you must be uneducated  and come from a bad area with low IQ and bad hygiene – you probably smell too;
• Work from home? You must either be lazy, have special needs or have kids;
• A Recruiter? you must love talking;
• A Salesman? you must like lying a lot;
• Work in a comic store? you must be a nerd.

Like, what is that?! The eff?!

Have you heard of university students fund their education by working as a sex call girl/ boy? – I have.

Have you heard of a PHD student working as a porn star? – I have.

Have you heard of anyone working at their job as well as working on other side projects? – I have.

Have you heard of a English Teacher with a Black Belt in Taekwondo? – I have.

“…okay, those examples are true, no lie”.

Unbelievable right? People have other things going on other than their jobs?! But, but, but…their job defines them, their job IS them, why would they do anything else outside their jobs? Don’t people do their job, go home, eat, crap, sleep and repeat? (Yes, I am being sarcastic). Honestly, your knowledge of one aspects of a persons’ life does not give you an accurate representation of them.

Quit assuming, quit defining and judging people. There are more to people than the little information they give out or from what you have heard. Even the cleverest of people have their own crux – maybe a Psychologist has dyslexia, maybe a Lawyer cannot understand how a printer works or maybe a Scientist is bad at maths – we all have weaknesses.

The art of defining yourself is not limited to where you live, or your education, or your job, your IQ, your friends, your families, your mistakes, your weaknesses, etc –  you define yourself via your mindset and passion (what you choose to show to the world).

You define yourself by how you cope with situations, how you help others, what your likes and dislikes are, what your hobbies are, your passions, your dreams, your actions, your strengths, your crux, your philosophy, how your learn etc.

How you hold yourself and radiate your personality to others is how people will perceive you as a person. You have to think that, if someone wants to define you, then they have to know all of you and vice versa.

“To define yourself to the world is to be at peace with yourself “.

 

So how have you defined yourself to the world?

 

Geomeun Goyangi